We're going to a wedding!!

Well, today is the day. The day that Elijah and Bethany get married. I'm in Sacramento with my friend Cris for a few days. We arrived last night and will be heading back to San Diego tomorrow. The weather up here is cool but sunny. I hope it stays that way.

The wedding will take place at 11:15 so I have about 45 minutes until we need to leave. I'm ready to go now and Cris is almost ready. He's sitting across
the hotel room from me on his computer right now. I guess he's checking his email or something. Today I am wearing a red dress I bought at Macy's a few years ago for a ball I went to. It's a size 14 and still fits, which really impresses me. I've decided to wear my black, peep-toe heels, which will probably end up being a bad choice, but it was better than snack skin heels that are too big, or turquoise Mary-Jane's, which were my only other options.

This morning Cris and I went to Denny's for breakfast and it was really delicious. I got their new health-minded wheat pancacks, which I enjoyed immensly. After the wedding Cris and I are going to join up with one of his old high school friends and possibly see a movie or go to the state fair, both of which venues are right around the corner from our hotel. I'd rather go to the fair, but if we go see a movie I think we will see Inception. I heard that movie is quite amazing. Mitch will be upset with me if I see that without him but I wouldn't mind seeing it again. I know that many people go see it more than once just to try to understand it better.

Well, I think that's all for now. Until next time!

New job and bordom

Mitch has officially started his new job at Chili's. I dropped him off at about 4:50 for his 5:00 shift and then went straight home. I'm so proud of him for getting this job after looking for more than 3 months, and I know that he's really excited to be doing something that he loves: cooking. They are starting him out on the grill cooking hamburgers and steaks and doing prep work for the other cooks. After a while he will get to learn the other stations, move up to full time, and get a pay raise. He's already starting out over minimum  wage, which is a huge blessing. When he gets to full time he can take the group insurance offered by Chili's. I really hope that happens soon because I'd love to go see a chiropractor.

Anyway, the only down side to Mitch working is that I'm home alone. It won't be too bad once he gets a regular schedule. I just hope we actually get to see each other. I usually work until 4:30, and if he has to start work at 5, well, we're just not going to see a whole lot of each other for a while. I guess this is what life is going to be like. Other couples do it all the time, so I know that God will help us through it all.

Next weekend I'm traveling up to Sacramento area to see two of the most amazing people I know tie the knot. Elijah Waddle and Beth Serrano are getting married this coming Friday and I simply cannot wait! It's going to be a beautiful wedding! I'm going to travel with one of my good friends on Thursday afternoon. I wonder what I should get them as a gift? I'm not really sure. HMMM....

Well, I'm going to go think on that for a while and possibly make myself some dinner.


Until next time!

Crap, babies, and more crap.

Don't worry... Mitch and I aren't fighting.

There's just a lot of stuff going on with child support and custody battles, and the crap that comes with those situations. I can't go into all of the details because it's a very private matter, but I can tell you that this whole situation is driving me crazy. I know Mitch is doing everything he can to get it resolved, but it's still painful.

I posted yesterday that I wasn't feeling very well that morning.. of course one of my friends posted a comment saying that it better not be morning sickness. Don't fret, my little dumplings! I'm not preggo, well at least not yet. Mitch and I want to have kids in the future, but at this point in our lives, especially with all this child support nonsense going on, we aren't ready. I'm not ready more specifically. I don't think I could handle having a baby right now. With all of the stress of school, finances, being newly married, doing the opera, work, keeping house, homework, and all that jazz.... I would have a mental breakdown if I added a baby!

I asked my mom if postpartum depression syndrome runs in our family. My friend brought her baby to my wedding and as much as I love her, and as much as I love that little baby girl, I almost couldn't handle all of the crying! I didn't say anything because it wasn't my place. I think I was mostly over stressed because of the wedding, but honestly I don't know. I'm scared of hurting a child because I can't handle taking care of it. I'm scared of not knowing what to do, who to talk to, or if I can even keep that child alive! I just don't think I'm ready right now.

I know that my dad is excited that I am married now. I am his fourth child out of seven, but only his second to get married. My 3 older siblings haven't had any children yet, despite 2 of them being much older than me. There were complications, careers, and other things that have kept that from happening. That's all good and well, but if everything goes the way I think it is going to go, I will be the first in my immediate family to have children. Who knows though, maybe my older siblings will have kids in the next two years. I know my dad wants grand kids, but not enough for me to risk my education. He has told me time, and time again to finish my college degree before I have kids. He loves the ideas of grand babies on his knees, but my education comes first, especially since Mitch doesn't have a college education.

We talked with a heath care broker yesterday about our options as a couple. He was really nice and he laid down all of the different options that we had. He went over Mitch's group insurance policy that he's getting from Chili's, and he showed us a policy that would cover everything else that Mitch's insurance wouldn't. It was really refreshing to talk to someone in person who knew the ropes and guided us in what we needed to do. He even gave us suggestions on law groups we could go to for the child support stuff. He was very personable and we really enjoyed having him.

I'm sorry, this is really turning into a meaty blog. I'm going to let you go now.

Until next time...
 

Work, work, work

So, for the last few days I've been sitting in an editing room working on the videos I shot last week for my boss. For three days I recorded training sessions for the guys working on my school's new website. It was really boring for me because I had to sit there and change the tapes out when they ran out of room. Of course the training went on all day long so I really didn't have much else to do. Now I get to edit those videos and the computer is being a jerk. It doesn't help that I don't know much about video editing software. I tried using Final Cut Pro, but it's too confusing for me. Now I'm using iMovie and it's being a jerk. The up side to this whole this is that I get to work on my opera stuff while I wait for the videos to transfer onto the computer. I also take breaks and watch YouTube videos and listen to Pandora.

I decided to wear the newest pair of heels I bought to work today. Granted I bought them like 3 months ago, but whatever. I figured that since I was just going to be in the editing room today I could wear whatever shoes I wanted. I usually take my shoes off while I'm sitting down anyway. After wearing these for a little bit I suddenly realized why I haven't worn them in a long time. They're too big. It sucks because these are really cute shoes!

I need to put something behind my ankles so I can keep wearing them or else I need to give them away. It's not really a big deal because I only got them for $4. YEAH FOR SALES!!!

I really need to work on my opera stuff. Because of the wedding and moving and all that jazz I really haven't been able to go through my music that much. I feel horrible and it's eating away at my conscience. I want to be great at this role but I won't get any better if I don't keep practicing! I also need to work on the poster. I feel like I have no inspiration! I want so much for the poster to be perfect, but duplicating Art Nouveau is extremely hard.

Ya.. that pretty much sums up my frustration...

Anyway, that's all for now. Back to editing I go.

Rude Craiglist Guy

Why do people have to be so rude? I tried to buy a table off of craigslist just now and the it was $150 OBO. I told the guy that I'd like to buy it but I could only give $50 and if he found a better deal than to not worry about me. He replys: "ummm..so you can turn around and re sell it haha..if you are in that much need there are plenty of $50 tables on craigslist...."

Geeze! I told him to not worry about me if he found a better deal!

So I replied: "Like I said, if you get a better deal don't worry about me. I'll keep looking. Thanks!"

I had obviously moved on and was going to keep looking, but he replies again: "dont even waste my time...$50? haha.."

I mean, come on! What's the point in being so rude? I had moved on and was going to keep looking. I just told him to sell it to someone else, but that he didn't have to be so rude about it.

I don't know why I keep going back to craigslist after so many bad encounters like this one. It's good if you can find something for cheap, but honestly, I don't think it's worth the risk of scammers or dealing with people like that guy.

Salvation Army, here I come.

A Moron's Mistake

So.... I'm and idiot. A self-centered, narcissistic idiot. And I feel horrible about it. In my last post I recounted my wedding day and I left out some really important details. And said some stuff that was true, but not really necessary to say. I was just typing, not really thinking about what words do. I wasn't aware of the destruction it would cause to friendships.
I feel like a moron and there really isn't anything else I can do besides apologize. So, consider this a public apology, for the entire internet to read. There was no reason to say those things and I am sorry that they hurt people, especially people close to me. I am sorry that I left details out and that people didn't feel like I included them. You all worked so hard for my happiness and I am sorry that I didn't thank you or mention you properly.

There's no point in mentioning the people now. It would just seem like I posted it because they said something. What's done is done and I can't go back on it now. Again, I am sorry. Really, really, really sorry.

We're Married!!

I'm a horrible blogger...
Sorry guys! I didn't have much internet access while I was up north for the wedding, and then my dad's computer crashed, so there wasn't much I could do about getting any more pre-wedding blogs to you guys. Anyway....

Mitch and I are married now!

 It's been a wonderful week and a half! We moved into our apartment right before we took off for NorCal. A couple who used to go to our church gave us a queen bed (complete with mattress and box spring, and frame) the day we were going to leave, so that stalled our departure just a bit, but we set the bed up. It looks nice, plus it's super comfortable.

The wedding was beautiful! It was so much fun too! There were a couple of hiccups, as Mitch so affectionately calls them. I forgot the music, for one. My mom had to run back to the house and get my iPhone, which has my iPod (with all the wedding music on it). It turned out to be a blessing though. Three of my friends from San Diego had driven up for the wedding and instead of going to the ceremony site they had driven to my house. My mom got there just in time to get what we had forgotten and pick up my friends.

Another "hiccup" was that I woke up with a huge pimple on my back. I felt like Tulla from the movie "My Big Fat Greek Wedding" when she woke up the day of her wedding and discovered she had a huge zit on her chin! Fortunately, my case wasn't as extreme. My dress was a halter so it was a pretty visible zit. Luckily my sister was there with a huge makeup box and covered that mountain of a pimple with enough makeup to put another layer on Queen Elizabeth's (1st) face.

My maid of honor didn't arrive to my house to help me get ready until 1:30 and the ceremony started at 2. It kind of put me behind, but it all worked out. Again my sister was there and had already helped me get into my dress. We were going to something nice with my hair, but we didn't have time. Good thing God blessed me with naturally curly hair and it looked really nice that day, so we just left it the was it was.

But enough with the bad stuff...
The wedding was so much fun! As I was waiting to walk down the aisle Mitch's best man came inside the Cook House (reception hall) to get ready to walk down my Maid of Honor. He took one look at me and walked back outside. Apparently he went and told Mitch that I was "smoking hott!" and "you're one lucky guy!". It was flattering!

I walked down to "Broken Road" by Rascal Flats, which is our song and it brought tears to Mitch's and my eyes. My parents read passages of scripture, Mitch and I did the sand ceremony where we combined two different colors of sand into one container. It represents our two different lives joining together as one. We repeated vows, exchanged rings, kissed.. and then we were married! It went by so fast!

The reception was amazing! We had toasts, dancing, cake, more dancing... etc. My dad and I danced to "Butterfly Kisses" by Bob Carlise. I grew up listening to that song and I always wanted it played at my wedding. At first I wanted my dad to sing it, but I knew that he wouldn't be able to. He'd start crying the moment the song started. I went over and grabbed my dad's hand and said, "It's time for the Father-Daughter dance! As soon as my dad heard the music start he said to me, "You had to play this song, didn't you?" He smiled, teared up, and then pulled me close..
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Mitch and I danced to "Come What May" from the movie "Moulin Rouge". We whispered the lyrics to each other as we danced. He kept telling me how beautiful I looked. :) At the end of the song he dipped me! Oh, the romance!

Later I danced with my brother, Marc. He taught me how to Fox Trot.. lol. That was really fun, but hard in my wedding dress. Plus I had taken off my heels because my feet had swollen up in the heat. I just wore my sandals during the reception. We also danced to a pretty upbeat song so it became difficult to dance to it after a while.

We had amazing food and the reception. Members of my dad's church helped out by bringing finger foods. It turned out to be awesome. The cake was amazing and beautiful. My mom's friend, Paula, helped me put it together.  We had three tiers: the top was vanilla, the middle was marbled chocolate/vanilla, and the bottom was chocolate. My friend Michelle made the cake topper: tow little birds sitting next together. I added a small bird house of the second tier. Paula supplied the cake stand, which worked perfectly!

All-in-all, it was a wonderful day.

I'll add pictures later!